Listening required

I’ve spent a long time as a woman’s business coach and entrepreneur. 20+ years to be exact. I’ve learned a lot about listening.

Listening to people’s gripes and their legitimate troubles.

In running my business, listening is my best tool, especially if I don’t know what to do.

I listen first and out of that beautiful well of information, my intuition tells me the right next step.

I don’t walk in with all the answers, instead, I ask questions.

Seemingly random questions about someone’s day (that’s how I know what mood they’re in).

And pointed questions about their past, their families and their beliefs (that’s how I know where they’re stuck and I can help).

I usually listen way more than I talk. I tell people, “how else will I know what’s going on? What the problem is? What to do next?”

If I don’t listen, first, I’ve looked like an idiot. I’ve said what I THINK someone needs, instead of what they’re willing (and able) to do right now.

Because right now is really all that exists, according to quantum physics. Right now… what can I see? What are other people thinking? What is my dog in this hunt, my role?

Good communication always starts with listening. Kind, curious, listening.

People always tell me the right answer, if I ask nicely, and I don’t have to be as smart as I seem. Listening is much easier than pretending or bossing people around.

But what exactly is asking nicely?

It’s quieting your own thoughts and being politely curious instead of demanding attention. It’s not about YOU.

That’s where the gold lies. Everywhere. In the dance between your opinion and their unconscious.

The gold reveals itself, hidden under layers of bad days and old patterns, and comes out like a woman in a red dress when you ask a good question.

So if you’re managing people or trying to make a million dollars, shut up.

Pay attention.

Stop thinking about what you assume is happening and start noticing the bigger picture. And THATS where the money comes from.

All my love,

Rita